Tuesday, July 13, 2010

All I'm asking

My benchmarks for raising Malik are my mom's and my mother-in-law's parenting skills. Both are working mothers, who were able to raise socially-adaptable human beings while keeping decent 9-6 jobs. This is not to belittle the hard labor stay-at-homes are doing, raising their kids. It's just that full-time moms and working moms have different to-do lists and hence, different time-management skills.

Anyway, I've always believed that the purpose of hiring a yaya for our children is for someone to take care of them when we are away. The idea is that yaya should not have to take care of baby when we are around.

This is the reason why I take care of Malik the moment I get home, on weekends, at night, early in the morning, and on days when I'm supposed to be on "vacation." This applies no matter how tired I am; and we all know, if your job entails having to solve other people's/an entire corporation's problems, surviving a work day can be more tiring than running a marathon.

Sometimes, when I get really really tired, I ask Ate Bear to take care of Malik even when I'm home already. If my eyelids are so heavy I can't see straight, I ask Pao to take care of Malik while I turn in early for the night. I tag team with him of course, and will be there when Malik wakes up at 3:00 a.m. for milk.

I feel guilty resorting to these "solutions" occasionally. I think it reflects poorly on my parenting skills. Moms are expected to be super-human. I admittedly am not.

I'm just wondering if there are other moms out there who share the same sentiment. I love our baby a lot and like to smother him with kisses, but I don't want to have to take care of him 24/7. Sometimes, although rarely, I just want to sleep in on weekends. *shrug*

Malik and Mommy after work

Malik and Mommy, Sunday morning


  1. It takes a village to raise a child. ;-) I don't think moms can do it all all the time. It is such a blessing to have good Yaya's and other family members who could help take care of our babies. And you're right, your mom and Pao's have done a great job. I'm sure you'll do just as well. :-)

  2. @yen - "It takes a village to raise a child," is my new mantra. Helps me a lot. Super thanks!


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